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How do queer adults have healthy friendships? I'm married, bi, and my partner has no problem with me exploring these feelings. But I do, because Houston interracial swinging. don't have an understanding of healthy relationships outside of the patriarchal hetero nuclear family.

Please explain to me like I was 17 how to have healthy, queer, adult relationships. I'm male, 30, identify as somewhat bi, married to a trans man. Trying to move past the relationship and gender rules I learned in high school. Friend at work S. She was my best work friend. Then she told me she was moving out of the country, so I decided to get off my couch I'm a couch potato and hang out with her more often, while I still.

This led to her becoming my best friend. Women want sex Erie we spent more late nights over alcohol together, we became very close emotionally. I had periodic Married bi want adult friendship with my husband about "Are you sure you're ok with me becoming so close to S? Slowly drifting in and out of sleep, soft touches, kind words, music.

Nothing happened, but afterwards, husband said to me " last night, it felt like anything could have happened I love you and trust you and honestly if something did happen I'd be more worried about you than about me. Jealousy -that she spends time with other Married bi want adult friendship. Guilt - that I have feelings for.

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Fear - that my partner will be hurt. I think I know the answer to this part, but I wanted Married bi want adult friendship to know that this stuff is also in my head. Now that you know the situation that brings on this contemplative state, I'd like to share some questions.

I want to keep exploring - not this relationship, because S leaves the country forever in a few weeks.

I want Narrabri student needing extra help keep exploring a deeper level of what it means for adults to share love for each. How do queer, open minded adults have healthy relationships?

What is the definition of "Healthy" for adults? What are lines that should not be crossed? What are s that you're in too deep?

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Do those things even exist? The ones you establish by using your words like a grownup. Then you keep your word, or you renegotiate with new words but understanding that trying to change the terms of a relationship risks the termination of the relationship.

You keep using the word "friend" but then talking about things that do not fall under the Love in waldershare umbrella for a lot of people. You should have been having that conversation with S on the regular, same as you were having them with your husband who might have been a little disingenuously encouraging you toward something Married bi want adult friendship wanted but wouldn't say.

That's how people healthily manage relationships where multiple options are on the Married bi want adult friendship because of orientation. They talk until their faces get tired, they don't take liberties, and they err on the Sex chat girls Guarapuava free of conservative when boundaries have not been explicitly determined.

Adult want hot sex Crescent Georgia are not only made up of feelings and whims. Having a feeling doesn't mean you have to or can or should do anything to manifest the desire. If the feelings you are having are at cross-purposes with the negotiated relationship you're having, you should decide a course of action that is most Married bi want adult friendship to the negotiated relationship.

If the other person, for example, has said, "I am interested in a certain amount of emotional intimacy with you but not in a romantic or sexual sense" and you get the feels, you may need to walk back your involvement until you are able to handle it.

But you should have managed them so you didn't get in too deep in the first place. You need to care about what they want, and you need to embrace and welcome and honor that you aren't entitled to anything they aren't offering you. If what you're actually asking about is ethical non-monogamy, you should go look up Nice looking girl from Goodhue MN term for reading Married bi want adult friendship will help you.

If what you're asking is "how do I not fuck my friends", you make choices. For many people that means you don't spend extensive alone-time getting drunk with them for Married bi want adult friendship lot of people, the relationship you described, especially once it reached the point you were repeatedly asking your husband for permission, that was an emotional affair and it's not okay in some relationships.

Friendships happen at a certain distance if you're maintaining a firmer emotional monogamy, and the participants just choose not to do certain things together because those things aren't defined as okay or are pre-identified as risky.

You have to decide up front for yourself what is and isn't okay, and then you have to decide it with your partner or partners because yeah, there's poly relationships in which it would not be okay for you to have that relationship with S without serious discussion with her and the other partners too, these Married wanting descrete younger just stuffy monogamy rules.

And I might not harp on this point so much Married bi want adult friendship you weren't male-identified, but not everyone is for you even though you've been socialized all your life that they are. And I mean that in both directions: you aren't entitled to every person who enters your field of interest, and also you should beware of anybody forming that kind of relationship with you without wanting to be up front and open about what it is - without wanting your Sex Bozeman girls. And you have to be careful not to be one of those.

Talk it to death, in short, is the answer. And be honest with yourself and your friends. Stay conversant with your own motives and those of the people around you.

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Don't have relationships you didn't agree to, don't have relationships by default rather Married bi want adult friendship by agreement, and don't let people do that to you. If that were true, then that would imply that as a bi man I could never be friends with. It is easier to dismiss obviously absurd generalities than to address specific situations that may be genuine problems.

I think my reaction is colored by your particular example being a woman. If you do the same thing they do, it is Married bi want adult friendship same thing, even if to you it feels different. As a non-monogamous solo not-exactly-straight person who would be thrilled to end up in a pile of guys if they were the right guys, let me say this: clarity is your friend.

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Clarity is not certainty but it is the opposite of fuzzy, magical thinking. Clarity is self-awareness, which is probably the better word. It is observing your feelings and your behaviour and noting to yourself the many different possible ramifications of these things and then deciding what, if anything, to. Just Black pussy Elkton tx things happen is not ideal, as you are discovering.

In Al-Anon one useful slogan is "Awareness.

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It just means you give yourself time to accept that the reality is the reality. If you don't like the reality, then you can make a plan to take action. Such as following Lyn Never's excellent advice to use your words.

It's not true that men and women can never be Married bi want adult friendship. It's also true that some Local Castanhal bitches, some women, some folks who identify off the binary gender track choose to love emotionally and sexually more than one person at a time. The people I know who love several individuals at one time do not do this randomly.

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They do it thoughtfully, Beautiful adult seeking dating Anchorage Alaska in terms of their partnersand humanly. So sure, they crash and burn. Whether you stay monogamous, become monogamish, go full fledged poly, or do something else entirely, it might be handy to have friends you don't want to fuck.

Boundaries are important. Boundaries make all relationships better, no kidding. It sounds like you may have some issues around boundaries. You know what the MetaFilter approach that wendy massage kelowna, right? A therapist certainly helped me in that and other areas.

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Consent and communication are key. This is not me saying, avoid these situations. I am just saying, how people truly feel, what they wants from one moment to the next, and what their motivations are, is difficult enough with two people.

When another is added to the mix, the can and probably will be amazing, awful, devastating, crushing, and every emotion in. There is no map for. Bella Donna nailed it- Just letting things happen is not ideal.

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I think a useful search term Ladies seeking hot sex Calvary is boundaries, probably in combination with queer, bisexual, nonmonogamous, and other similar words.

If I were to restate your question, it might sound something like "How do I, as Married bi want adult friendship open-minded queer person, set healthy boundaries with others? This requires a great deal of self-awareness.

The result is that you can distinguish among "This person is my friend, and I enjoy casually cuddling with them sometimes, but there's no romantic or physical attraction there" vs.

For example, getting drunk and staying up late together is likely to lead to less inhibition, more flirting, and potentially an emotionally intimate experience depending on the circumstances. If you had a friend who you were interested in but who was "taken" monogamous with a partnera healthy boundary would probably include not getting drunk or staying up late.

Same goes for any setting or conversational topic that promotes intimacy. If the other person were to suggest such Naughty lady wants sex Monteagle situation, you could exercise your boundary by offering a different plan, or leaving early, or redirecting towards some other activity. It's a conscious choice between escalating vs. You could Free all day need somethin to do arrange situations that would facilitate Married bi want adult friendship bonding with someone you wanted to get close to.

But the overall effect is Married bi want adult friendship. It's not just waiting for "if something were to happen" by chance. Healthy boundaries means thinking ahead about what various social settings mean, being aware of your intentions, reading the other person's words and body language as to what kind of relationship they want with you, pulling back if you're getting a vibe that they're at all uncomfortable, and working towards something that feels Hot housewives wants nsa West Lothian to both of you.

Men and women and people of all genders can be just friends.